Sexonomics formula

My editor, Donna Marie, tells me that years ago, following the release of her book Sensual Celibacy (http://www.sensualcelibacy.blogspot.com/), she began to realize that there was a connection between a person’s sexual behavior and his/her financial status. She said it took 2 years, but God gave her the word that perfectly describes this relationship: Sexonomics.

Sexonomics came up yesterday in Natchez, Mississippi, where I talked to several hundred 9th graders about their sexual behavior. I asked them to think about this: if your life is worth a million dollars, how much will it be worth after having sex with people who don’t care about you, don’t like you, don’t know you? How much are you worth after the baby bills, hospital bills, and loss of educational and career opportunities? How much are you worth after your heart takes a beating?

How much do you value yourself?

Economists have formulas for figuring out the GNP. Here’s my Sexonomics formula for figuring out the financial impact of unprotected, unmarried sex too soon. Since education is a factor in earning potential, the formula includes some academic correlations to teen sexual behavior.

(Sex) x (No Protection + No Marriage + No Prenup) – (Unemployment + Underemployment + GED/No Diploma/Illiterate/Low Skills) – (Child Support + Dating Expenses + Baby Expenses) = Poverty Potential: No Assets (Land/Real Estate), No Cash, In Debt, No Stock Portfolio, Welfare, Food Stamps, Medical Card, Section 8, Fake Bling Bling, Vicarious Living Through Rappers' Pretend Lifestyles (vs. Living Your Own Life to the Fullest), Taking the Bus/Begging Rides from Others, No Tithing/Giving, No Retirement Plan, Criminal Activities to Generate Cash, Gambling/Playing the Lottery, No Money/Only Debt to Pass on to Future Generations

In The Millionaire Next Door, the authors explain how having sex with one partner, in marriage, forever (no divorce), builds wealth. This is also Sexonomics and the formula reads:

Sex + 1 Wife/Husband for Life = Wealth Potential: Assets (Land/Real Estate), Cash in the Bank, Manageable Debt, Stock Portfolio, Tithing/Giving, Quality Health Insurance/Health Care, Nice Vacations, Nice Cars, Retirement Plan, Positive Financial Legacy to Pass on to Future Generations

When I talk to students I make sure to tell them my wife and I have been married over 20 years. It's important for them to know that a true man marries a life mate to share love, build wealth, and provide for his family and community. This image of manhood is, unfortunately, new to many youth.

There's so much work to be done.